Is it Time to End Your Marriage?

by | Jul 20, 2021 | Divorce

Are you wondering if it’s time to call a divorce lawyer? Despite your hopes and dreams in the beginning and your good intentions now, it seems impossible to continue your marriage. For many of us, talking to divorce lawyers and the notion of “till death do us part” has become a relic. When life becomes too unbearable, with too many battles, few of us question the notion, at least intellectually, of moving on. 

Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs that You’re Headed For Divorce.

When it’s Time to Engage a Divorce Lawyer

Typically, when you love someone, you make an effort to be flexible—incredibly when accommodating your partner’s needs. At times, you may have to put your foot down and choose what you want. Suppose your partner refuses to meet you halfway on essential issues, or he/she has non-negotiable needs that are worlds apart from yours. In that case, you may be headed for a split.

Even with the absence of anger, one or both partners might lose respect for the relationship and spouse. That might signal the end, as well.

It Might Be Time to Let Go When:

  • Every situation, no matter how seemingly trivial, evolves into a fight
  • You or your spouse constantly refer to hurtful events in the past
  • All the respect has gone from your relationship. You feel it is unfeasible to bring that respect back
  • Your goals and directions changed, whereas your partners’ stayed the same (Or vice versa.)
  • Your partner is no longer fostering your individual growth
  • You and your partner have both changed so much that you no longer share moral, ethical, or lifestyle values
  • You and your spouse have lost the art of compromise. When you disagree, you are unable to forge a path together that is acceptable to both
  • You and your spouse have a fundamental sexual incompatibility

Making the decision to leave a marriage is scary: There’s frequently a deep-seated fear of being alone and the possibility of an undetermined future. So many married individuals stick with mediocrity, settling for low-level pain and dissatisfaction instead.

Should you determine that divorce is your best choice, we suggest that you proceed with caution and be mindful of what you could lose. You must assess the cost/benefit ratio before you move forward with hiring a divorce lawyer. If the price of divorce is too high, you may decide to hold off. Or at least wait until you’ve positioned yourself in such a way as to rebalance the equation and come out ahead.

Talk to a Divorce Lawyer

Whipple, Mercado & Associates, LLP, has the qualifications, reputation, personal qualities, and professional credentials that get results across the spectrum of family law matters — from premarital agreements to divorce and domestic violence restraining orders. Our Best Family Law Attorney with extensive legal knowledge, openness to your ideas, and attentive personal service can pave the way for your family’s brighter future. Call us on 925-344-5050 to schedule a free consultation or contact us via our website.

Tammy J. Mercado

Tammy J. Mercado has a passion for helping her clients achieve their desired results. She listens and she personally and promptly responds to your texts, emails and phone calls. She offers real solutions to your legal matters. Tammy will carefully evaluate the legal issues in your case, provide you with sound advice and offer you the pros and cons of each possible scenario so you can meet your legal objectives. She encourages clients to participate in their own matters. Tammy believes that client participation is key to a positive result and to keeping attorney fees as low as possible. You can be sure that she will offer you straightforward, sound and honest advice in a professional manner, with integrity and excellence.

Before opening her own law practice, Tammy worked for many high-volume law firms. This gave her extensive, diversified experience in hundreds of complex family law cases as well as civil matters. She is admitted to practice law before all courts in California and the United States District Court for the Northern District of California. She is also a member of the American Bar Association, the Contra Costa Bar Association, the Alameda County Bar Association and the Bar Association of San Francisco. Tammy is also a member of the Rotary Club of Danville.

Tammy is a graduate of John F. Kennedy School of Law and holds a Bachelor of Science in business management from the University of Phoenix. Tammy is also a licensed real estate broker, which comes in handy for valuing property in family law cases as well as real estate matters in the civil arena.

During her off time, Tammy is an avid sailor who crews and races on various boats in the San Francisco Bay. Tammy approaches each case as she would any yacht race: by assessing the other’s strengths, weaknesses, experience, equipment, history and reputation. She is a member of the American Sailing Association, and she is a certified Coast Guard Auxiliary member.

HONORS AND AWARDS
Tammy was selected to receive the prestigious “Business Person of the Year” Award in 2017 for the San Ramon Chamber of Commerce.

Tammy is currently serving as Danville Rotary President for 2017 through 2019.

Mary C. Whipple, CFLS

Mary C. Whipple opened her first law practice in the summer of 2008. She previously was an associate attorney at the Law Office of Cummins & Holmes, a full-service civil litigation law firm in San Ramon. The majority of her experience is in family law, which includes divorce, custody, support, prenuptial agreements and domestic-violence restraining orders. Certified by the California State Bar’s Board of Legal Specialization, she is a specialist in the area of family law. Mary has also represented clients in a variety of non-family-law cases, including juvenile dependency, probate, breach of contract and employment disputes, to name a few.

Mary also previously worked as a contract attorney for O’Melveny & Meyers in San Francisco while simultaneously volunteering at the Bar Association of San Francisco’s Volunteer Legal Services Program, representing defendants in unlawful detainer actions. The program acknowledged Mary with an Outstanding Volunteer in Public Service Award in 2006 for her efforts in providing access to justice.

A seventh-generation Californian, Mary is a graduate of Loyola University Chicago School of Law. She earned her Bachelor of Science in criminology at Southern Oregon University in Ashland, Oregon. She is a member of the State Bar of California, the Alameda County Bar Association, and the Contra Costa County Bar Association.

In addition, Mary is active in her community as a member of the Ambassador’s Committee for the San Ramon Chamber of Commerce; a volunteer at the Contra Costa County and Alameda County Superior Courts, where she assists self-represented litigants in completing their divorces; and a member of Divorce Angel, where she provides information regarding family law matters to members of the community. Since 2007 she has been a volunteer judge for Alameda and Contra Costa County’s Annual High School Moot Court Competition. She is also a member of the Danville/Sycamore Valley Rotary Club. She was awarded the San Ramon Chamber of Commerce 2012 Business Person of the Year; and a graduate of the 2012 class of Leadership San Ramon Valley.

CERTIFIED LEGAL SPECIALTIES
Certified Specialist in Family Law by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization