The decision to get a divorce is never arrived at easily, and the process itself can be long, complicated, and emotionally draining. If you are considering a divorce, there are some things you can do now to help you get organized. Below you will find divorce tips from a female divorce attorney here at Whipple, Mercado & Associates that will help you cut through the stress and uncertainty and prepare financially, mentally, and emotionally for the road ahead. And if you are seeking a San Ramon divorce lawyer, you will find our contact information below.
1) Get a Budget in Order
If you are going from two incomes down to one, it is important to list the bills you are now solely responsible for. Determine how you will make these payments and whether you need a second source of income or an alternate plan of action, such as downsizing. This will lessen the stress on you later if it comes as a sudden shock that you can no longer afford the lifestyle you were used to.
2) Decide if You Can Stay in Your Home
If you wish to stay in your home and do not want to move, verify whether you can live there on your own with only one income. Additionally, if your home is community property (purchased during marriage with community funds) and you and your spouse are both on the mortgage, you will have to qualify to buy out your spouse’s interest in the home. Finding out early on if you can qualify to refinance the mortgage to buy out his/her interest is an important first step in deciding whether it is realistic for you to be able to stay in the home.
3) Map Out a Parenting Plan
If you have children, it is important to determine how long and when each parent will see the child. Now that your child(ren) will have two homes, you will both need to establish a schedule for your child and determine how decisions for the child will be made, related to extracurricular activities, healthcare, education, and overall welfare.
4) Find Emotional Support
Family and friends are excellent sources for emotional support. But it is always a good idea to hire a professional counselor to speak to regularly while you go through this difficult process. You do not have to be alone in this big change in your life. Another option is finding a divorce support group or a meet-up group on social media that have meetings on a regular basis near you.
5) Take Care of Your Needs
Anyone who has been through the process can tell you divorce is a stressful time. It is important to remember to fulfill your basic needs and not add to the stress. Rest plenty, exercise regularly, and eat a healthy diet. Ensure you are surrounding yourself with activities that boost your mood and not adding stressors to your load, such as negative people, reading bad news, or taking on too much at work. Now is the best time to put yourself first.
6) Hire a Professional Female Divorce Attorney
If you’re looking for a female divorce attorney, contact us at Whipple, Mercado & Associates. We’re here to give you the support you need through the divorce process. You can schedule a free consultation, or give us a call at (925) 344-5050.