People all around the world get married to signify their commitment to each other. It’s one of the oldest traditions, although the ritual itself varies from culture to culture. But we all know it doesn’t always end in happily ever after. So, if you’re wondering, “Why do people get divorced?” here are four unfortunately common reasons.
Financial Stress
Financial problems can cause stress and tension in a relationship. Research has shown that 34% of surveyed people consider themselves to be the money saver in their relationship, while blaming their significant other for larger expenses. It’s one of the most delicate subjects, and one that partners often avoid talking about, especially if they have different perspectives on their financial status or how assets should be used. While many have stated that it’s not a primary cause for divorce, financial stress can create a climate of survival that can weigh heavily on a marriage.
Lack of Commitment
Of course, marriage is sustained by both parties. If only one person is struggling to keep the union afloat, it’s bound to fail. Many people realize that the effort is too much for them only after they’ve said their vows and returned from the honeymoon. A one-sided marriage is sure to create resentments that can ultimately lead to divorce. This issue is usually followed by a lack of communication – once the responsibilities start pouring in, it’s easy to forget to wind down and take a break.
Married at a Young Age
Why do people get divorced? Marrying at a young age is one of the leading causes of divorces. High school sweethearts are, well, sweet, but these couples often break down over time as they mature and change as individuals. And to tie in a previous stressor, people who marry at an early age typically experience more financial concerns. It’s unlikely that they already have established careers. In fact, they may be working and attending school. Divorce becomes even more likely when children are involved. So, you can see there is an accumulative effect to stressors.
Reduced Time and Closeness
Marriages require quality time and intimacy to survive. While many couples experience cooling off periods, especially when compared to the earlier stages of their relationship, couples that last find ways to reconnect. Children and work can make it more challenging for couples to invest time in their marriage. It takes a conscious effort to maintain a healthy relationship, and without that joint effort it’s easy for people to grow apart over the years, or even to seek extramarital affairs to meet those needs for connection, whether they’re physical or emotional.
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